Apr 272014
 
Therapy

It’s been a while, Internet. I haven’t talked to you for some time. I’m not sure I had all that much to say. Things have been interesting, but they’ve been draining, too. The sheer number of people and tasks I deal with at work leaves me pretty out of whack by the end of the day; if I have the evening at home, I kind of want to retreat. And if I go out and see a film or a friend or go to my Quaker meeting, there isn’t time or energy left to write by the end of the day. Lately, at home on my own, I’ve been playing Read full post >>

Oct 072013
 
Outreach on Facebook

Last week was Quaker Week, when British Quakers make an extra effort to do some outreach and talk to the world about who Quakers are and what we do. I was on holiday, so I thought that perhaps my contribution could be to ask people on Facebook if they wanted to ask any questions about Quakerism. The resulting thread was so much fun (to write and read) that I decided to repost a screenshot here, so that it disappears from view a little more slowly than on Facebook, where it has already been pushed down the timeline by much less interesting forms of noise.

Mar 242013
 
Chester Zoo

Last weekend I had a lovely day at Chester Zoo with some friends of mine I was visiting for the weekend. The visit was a pleasure – these were old friends I haven’t seen properly for a long time, who have a young family and lots of love and stability to offer them. I felt privileged to spend time with them. This gave me the chance to take some more photos, the best of which are below. You can view the whole lot by clicking here.  

Mar 052013
 
Offline (Decluttering, part 4)

I’ve stopped using Facebook and Twitter for Lent. I thought this might prove difficult, given how easy it is to log in and spend time on them without really meaning to. But it’s not. Change the passwords to something random you can’t remember, don’t tell your browser, and remove anything from your phone that might push a notification into your pocket and make your ears burn. Social media works by making you think that you need to be connected, need to be fighting off messages with a repost here, a witty comment there, a rebuttal there. But you don’t need this; you didn’t need it before you signed up for Read full post >>

Sep 062012
 

Those who’ve seen me lately know the reason for the extended period of radio silence on this blog: a tempest of a relationship leading to a shipwreck of a breakup. I only mentioned the relationship once here. How naïve that I wanted to clear space in my life for it. I’ve tried to write about this situation a number of times, only to leave the posts as drafts: this one incoherent; that one too angry; another too confused. With the benefit of hindsight, things became bad early, carried on worse, and ended terribly. From early on, fearful that I would find no one else, I managed genuinely to convince myself that it Read full post >>

Jun 192012
 
Weddings, weddings

I recently attended two weddings, each of a close friend. The reception for the second was at the same venue as mine would have been. My thoughts turned inwards and backwards, towards my own brush with matrimony. The last time I went back to this place, I felt very upset, haunted by the passing of time and the changing of circumstances. This time, I had a few moments of wanting to wander away from the celebrations and have a quiet moment to myself, but was won back again by the company of friends. My feelings were the same – I still love the place, and I still regret some of Read full post >>